Tag: divorce
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A Span of Values
My ex filed against me about once a month on average I would say. Filing was the weapon. Every time he filed, I had to respond, and responding cost money and energy, and money and energy were the point. He could reach into my life on a monthly schedule and make it more expensive and…
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From the stands
He had a serious wind-up before he was old enough to know what a wind-up was. I mean a toddler, barely steady on his feet, already rearing back with this deliberate, solemn intensity, like the throw mattered more than anything in the world. Nobody taught him that. It was just in him. And years later,…
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What She Knew
They were laughing when I walked in. My ex, and a man I didn’t recognize, sitting together in the courtroom before the hearing started, easy and joking like two people waiting for a ballgame. I didn’t know who the man was. It didn’t even occur to me to worry about it. I had done nothing…
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Not my truth
There’s a rule in family court that nobody explains well enough.You are not allowed to speak badly about the other parent. It sounds reasonable on paper. Protect the kids, keep the adult conflict out of their hands. What it actually means, in practice, is that one person can say almost anything, and the other person…
Whatever Held 